Right then, here's the story. I met Old Flame on Tuesday and we went for pizza in Cafe Bar Deli on George's Street. Then we went to The Long Hall for a drink. Then I went home. Alone.

No doubt some people will think I'm making this up to conceal the fact that I had sex with a man who couldn't give a hoot about me. But no. Honestly, I went home. Alone.

And here's why. Well, there were a few reasons why I suppose. Firstly OF was bugging me. He kept talking about his travel plans even though he hasn't booked anything yet.

He was banging on about how he thinks it will be January before he heads off and what sort of flights/routes he's looking into.

I wondered what I was doing with him

And I was just sitting there thinking OK, why am I actually here? Yeah sure, we talked about other things – even had a few laughs – but he seemed happier discussing his backpacking future, which clearly doesn't include me.

And it reached a point where I could no longer ignore that little voice in my head that was telling me to get out now. Although I did hang around for a bit longer considering I went for a pint with him.

It was halfway through the 45 minutes that we spent in The Long Hall that I resolved to go home as soon as we drank up.

In truth I couldn't take another minute of it. Not only was he talking about going abroad, he kept criticising Ireland too.

I have the evening news for negativity

And fair enough – the country is a bit of a shambles at the moment. But I live here, I'm not going anywhere. And it's very hard to listen to all that negativity on a night out. There's the evening news for that!

Also, the whole situation was all so odd or something. It was like we were two people on this pointless exercise – and in what, I don't know.

He has no interest in me, it's as simple as that. He likes me of course, but not nearly enough. That's blatantly obvious.

Anyway, he looked surprised when I said I was heading home and he did offer to accompany me in case there was a dead mouse in my bathroom. (I'd told him earlier about it.)

But I said no, that I'd be fine disposing of a furry corpse if I had to. And it was then I knew I was doing the right thing.

I realised he could take me or leave me

He didn't seem overly bothered that I was rejecting his extremely half-hearted advances. In fact it struck me that OF could literally take me or leave me!

So he flagged me a cab and we said our goodbyes and I'm pretty sure I won't be going down that road again any time soon.

In a way I regret meeting up with him at all, but I reckon it was a good idea too in the sense that I feel I've turned a corner and am no longer holding out for him or whatever.

Meanwhile I got home and thanks be to God the mouse traps were untouched. I've tried using cheese, chocolate and peanut butter but there are no takers so I'm hoping my little visitor has left the building, never to return!

I'm down the country for the long weekend

I'm leaving the building tomorrow myself as I'm going down the country to my parents' house for the long weekend.

I'll probably be unlucky enough to have a sighting of the a-hole that is Ex Man but I'm sure I'll cope! I'm getting very used to encountering a-holes these days!

Oh and two questions before I go about my daily business – why is Brendan waxing biblical? And was anyone else as appalled as me when Magnolea told me to “cop on and grow up will you, for expletive's sake”? (He used the f word.)

Now I'm all for free speech and lively banter, but there's no need for that kind of thing! I'm patiently awaiting an apology!



 

Comments (14)

  • Nov-4 - cookiethank god you have finally come to see the creep for what he was,we have all acting like ejits over men and it does take a while to see the light.you will meet someone better than him,and brendan you talk a lot of shit.
  • Oct-25 - brendan"...Anyway, this is Ireland, the country that Kitten professes to love so dearly - when was the last time you had a relaxed, informal conversation with a mate that wasn't littered with expletives?...." Yes, take away the f-bomb and a few others and you've canceled out a third of the Irish vocabulary.
  • Oct-23 - MagnoleaHey c'mon now, it wasn't that foul-mouthed...I used an asterisk. Anyway, this is Ireland, the country that Kitten professes to love so dearly - when was the last time you had a relaxed, informal conversation with a mate that wasn't littered with expletives? As for aggressive - don't agree with that either. I'm direct; I thought Kitten's excuses about/reasons for letting OF back into her life were a bit silly and especially the mouse thing -I mean, c'mon; as I said it's completely up to her who she brings to bed with her but having made a no-sex pledge she was pre-emptively trying to back out of it - because of a mouse? She could still have told me to go jump and decided to sleep with OF, and so what if she had? We're invited to post comments about her life and presumably that includes giving our opinions as well. I know plenty of guys like OF, believe me...in fact I'm friends with guys like OF. And I don't always see eye to eye with them either, and I don't mind telling them when I don't. And guess what - using women for sex is fine and so is using men and I've been on both sides of it (NB: by that I mean I've used and been used, I'm not outing myself as bi!) but it's only fine for so long and when both parties are fully understanding of what's going on and are OK with it. Once feelings start to come into it and people end up getting hurt then it's not so fine and if it was my sister for example I'd be telling her to cop on too. Unrequited love is just a simple fact of life that people have to come to terms with and accept. A friend of mine recently found out her husband was cheating on her with a workmate and she is absolutely devastated over it, even though she KNEW from years back that none of her family or friends thought much of the guy, everyone knew there was something dodgy about him but she wouldn't listen, had to go and do her own thing and show everybody how wrong they were, and then bingo - barely 3 years into the marriage and with an young kid, she...  Show Full Comment
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